Why do men think that they need to find a shortcut into everything? And to be able to find a place in a woman’s heart should definitely not be a race, that you would need a shortcut to win. Be it good guys or the bad lover boy types, a woman’s heart is not a destination that you could make a place for, just by taking a shortcut. You have to earn that place and a whole lot more.
1. Understand what I need!
The very simple and very basic way is to understand what the woman needs. Yes, the most problematic thing. She changes her mind and needs so many things, so how can a man, with a limited knowledge about women know, what she needs? On top of that she is ever so moody, she runs from a ‘yes’ to a ‘no’ in no time. On top of everything, she herself is clueless as to what she needs, how a man is supposed to know. My friend, here is the shortcut – Learn to know what exactly she needs. She will always leave clues and if she can not be sure, make her so by being with her and helping her figure out what exactly her requirements are. P.S: Nudge her a little with your love and she would be able to find out what she is looking for and she would hook you up too!
2. Don’t ever judge me!
She has her family and the society to judge her. The last thing she needs is another person who is judging every little thing that she does. She needs someone who would support her, or even be a partner in crime. With whom she can be herself. When she can confide in, he would not preach her, would rather party! The pillar of support who can hold her too, when she is puking after a cocktail of drinks. Not the guy who would take advantage.
3. Don’t pull a disappearing act
People come and go, but a person who would like to stay through thick and thin is the guy who can find a place in a woman’s heart. He is not the one who would simply wake up one day and leave. A man who is always there and at the same time is capable of using her words as ammunition against her is the man she would need him by her side always. She is not shy about it and would tell the guy enough times to go ahead and leave! But he would still stay. But you need to figure out the difference, between when she wants you to really go and when it is just a means to tell that she is angry.
4. Never pull me down!
A man who knows when to pull down the woman in his life, knows how to win her. He pulls her down, not to discourage her, but pulls down to break her up and build her in the right manner. Make her love herself and be confident again before she can see good in something else. He is always the sun in her sunshine and always appreciates everything she does. He is not lovestruck but genuinely admires her for all her worth and much more.
There is no shortcut to a woman’s heart. There is a long winding road! The man who is willing to walk up on that path with compassion and courage would find a place in her heart. The effort has to be made in such a way that it should appear normal, easy! Before even knowing it, you would be at that place where you always want to be.
P.S: it is not only a man who has to find a place in a woman’s heart. It does not only have to be out of love for the woman, nor is it written anywhere that it has to be a man who needs to find a place in her heart. There are so many things that anyone can do to make a place in someone’s heart. If only we learn to listen and understand!
A mother of two, Preeti Bhandari is a colloquial writer. She believes in simple living which reflects in her writings. As the Editor of Narisakti, she intends to use her vast experience to propel this platform to a cult status among entrepreneurial networks. When not writing she is quilling, both with paper and thoughts.