Ask any man- “Do you understand a woman?” they would always start with a yes and then turn to a no and then a quizzical look and a shrug of shoulder- Who does?
Ask a woman- “Do you know what you want?” quick comes an answer- obviously yes!
Women all over the world have captivated a man’s heart in some form or the other. Be it as a mother, daughter, wife or sister, friend or colleague. She is always on his mind. No matter what, she is one puzzle that he can never solve but only gets more tangled in it.
What makes this relationship work?
In reality, no matter how alluring the woman may be, the relationship would only work when everything is on the table. No games and no shades! Women can very well define where they want to steer the course of their relationship with that guy. As a friend, as a lover or as a partner; what does she expect from him? That knowledge is very powerful for a man. It also goes well the other way round. When the woman knows how he is gonna be bringing himself in the relationship; it thrives. Otherwise, after the initial fire, everything else seems to fade away easily.
Charm and Surprise
One can argue, if everything is on the table, won’t the charm disappear after a while? Won’t the element of surprise be the one that keeps the relationship going? All of this is true. A man and a woman should never cease to discover their relationship. They should explore each side of it every day! The takeaway is to have the highs and lows but not to exploit the relationship. When exploration ends and exploitation begins, that is a toxic situation and no one gets what they deserve. Belittling yourself and over analyzing simply puts a kink in a relationship.
Be who you are
You see is what you get- this is what an ideal relationship should be like. If I am charming, I will charm my way out of sticky situations. If I can’t wait, I will not even wait for the answers. But these things can not be used against me. When we put up a mask and have a different face every time, it becomes confusing and thus man feels that he is in a trap. It is also true for the woman, if she feels that the guy she first met is not the same, she would feel trapped too. Evolving in the relationship as you move forward is a growth but leaping 2 steps and going back 1 is not a progress or a growth.
Asking the man to deal with you being a woman would not cut it. He is with you not because you are a woman and have the superior right to be fickle minded. If he admires you, he is hooked for life. Be who you are, be true to your nature and grow in that relationship. But never stoop down to hurting the guy by being anything less than your best. Even when you lose faith, have patience and remember that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Be the only version of yourself that you know yourself to be and then the man will have to learn to deal with it!
A mother of two, Preeti Bhandari is a colloquial writer. She believes in simple living which reflects in her writings. As the Editor of Narisakti, she intends to use her vast experience to propel this platform to a cult status among entrepreneurial networks. When not writing she is quilling, both with paper and thoughts.
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