Would I rather be a Vamp or the Girl Next Door?

There was a time when the women folk did not have any rights. They were not allowed to express themselves, not allowed to vote and were expected to behave as their mothers and their grandmothers behaved. They were sweet and docile and obedient. All they were raised to do was to take care of the household, raise good children and play the piano and do excellent needle work. Do not be alarmed, they were expected to be well educated only to be married to a man who prided himself to have wedded the most beautiful one in that season.

The very lack of passion and a sense of excitement drove these men to a different set of women who showed them carnal desire. These vamps were not vile, just a bit more accomplished in the art of seduction!

Back to now! Today we have the right to express ourselves in every way possible and yet we prefer to be the girl next door. We are still looking after the houses, kids, husband and trying to make all of this organized. We are named as bad moms, bad homemakers but never are we a temptress (that is worst, coz we can’t seem to please the husband). The vamps are everything that the girl next door is not. Isn’t it time to turn up the charm and knock out all these shackles?

1.       She is a challenge

There is a sense of mystery and mysticism around a seductress. She will keep the mystery alive by revealing only a part of herself. The surprise element is what makes it exciting. The aura of the mystery around the woman is what captivates the man. Being with her is a challenge that every man wants to take up. If she finds the man worthy of being with her only then she would allow him to come close. Her captivating ways will hold the interest till she decides otherwise and after that the man is left wrecked for life. She would have her way with him and leave him!

The challenge lies in the mystery, what a man doesn’t know, he is attracted. An open book would no longer excite after a read or two. The thrill is after all in the chase!

2.       She is naturally sexy

Her charm is magnetic. She does not have to make a lot of effort to be sexy. She may not dress scantily; it is the vibe she gives out that anyone would want to be near her. The vamp is not essentially beautiful either but she sure knows how to dress up and exude the sexiness. She is not a home wrecker or the evil temptress. But she surely knows how to work the charm and all the attributes she already has to captivate a man. In any relationship, she holds all the reigns, she would never put on a sorry shrug and be a damsel in distress, she is the one to cause the duress. There is never ever any pretension when a seductress is at work, every emotion is in its raw form. Every act and emotion is complete and before she stomps all over the man, without any regret she will move ahead in life.

3.       She is confident

Her strut, all those airs, it is not to look down upon someone, but knowing your self-worth. She knows who she is and she is proud of it. Her savageness lies in the way she conducts herself confidently. She would never put any pressure in the relationship as she knows what she is bringing to the table and what she wants and how she can get it. When she chooses the poor guy, she is well aware of what she would get from him. She knows that she is special and that is what makes her different. A plain Jane would be happy by her many suitors, but always doubtful of what she is worth. But a seductress knows what she wants and gets it! Confidence is one trait that she wears very well.

4.       She is herself

It is believed that when you know your self-worth, you often tend to be precarious. You falter when you are unaware of your goal. In both the cases a vamp knows her own life goals and how to achieve them. She is independent and passionate about it. She would not need a man to fulfill her needs. She loves her individuality and does not like to be tied down. Her sincerity is never condescending and she would never appear to be needy and that is what makes her an excellent temptress.

Plain Jane and a Vamp is a part of a woman. What side she chooses to bring out is what defines her. The patriarchal society and pseudo feminists have always declared a war against women who are radical thinkers. Always ostracized those who are not entitled or controlled in the parameters set by the society. What we have learned from our ancestors we have continued to live on those terms without questioning the norms. We do it and continue to teach our future generations the same. But now is the time to be a vamp and be my own woman! Be shamelessly selfish and proud to be a seductress. The art is not in attracting the man, but being comfortable in my own skin and ensuring that I say yes and no because I want to and not because of some regressive thoughts.